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TG

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Are you stuck in no man's land.
« on: July 16, 2015, 10:50:07 am »
Are you stuck in 'No Man's Land' as I like to call it. No Man's Land is a dangerous and scary place and it is a lonely time during a quit.  The definition of no man's land is 'an area between opposing armies, over which no control has been established.'

 I call No Man's Land that period of time  about the end of your first month until you hit half a year. This is a time when many people slip and go into a full relapse and have to start over... if they can start over, that is.

The first month is an exhausting but exhilarating experience, you are locked in nearly daily struggles and you get the satisfaction of successfully beating your addiction that you are justifiably proud of yourself. Your friends and family are also supportive as they see you struggling each day to maintain your quit. Weather or not you post on here doesn't matter, just being here is good for your quit. And so, the battles are won and it actually becomes easier and the battles occur less often.

You will then start to have some really good days, but you still have some bad days. Those bad days can really be depressing... you begin to wonder if you're ever gonna be able to relax. Your junkie brain is whispering to you, telling you that 'just one' won't hurt. You've conquered your daily triggers, but now you start to wonder over the occasional ones... a death in the family, unexpectedly bad news, money problems, health problems, going out with friends or whatever. You have a strong crave and you begin to doubt your ability to keep your quit.

In addition, the support that you used to get is pretty much gone, non-smokers figure you should be 'over it' by now, smokers don't like to hang around you much because they feel guilty, you think you should be 'over it' and the temptation is to have 'just one' to see if you ARE over it.

You start to really romance over a cigarette and would just like that last buzz the AAAHHHHHHHHH sensation. But the reality would never be the same as what is portrayed in your head. It would be more  like someone taking the heaviest blanket of depression and throwing it on top of you. You would start to go dizzy. Your vision would be blurry. Your heart would feel like it was beating too fast. You would feel nauseous too. Does that sound like something you would enjoy? You would feel horrible, both mentally and physically.

Later on in your quit you will begin to really get a healthy perspective on your addiction. You will see the huge role that smoking played in your life, you will see clearly what that addiction really cost you. And you will understand that it was a very high price to pay... the loss of your confidence, your emotions, your self-control... your SELF. All enslaved to your addiction.

And you will begin to see that you can look forward to a non-smoking future without romanticizing your addiction. You will see it clearly for the true nature of this addiction. You see a much different future for yourself than your past has been. And it no longer scares the crap out of you to think that you are done smoking... in fact, you embrace that thought with joy every day.

No Man's Land doesn't have to be so lonely and scary and dangerous. You need some company and some courage and some faith in yourself. And when you emerge from it, you will not be the same person that entered it. The best bit is YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE!!! These guy's are always here to help.

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« Last Edit: June 19, 2016, 11:12:43 pm by TG »
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Re: Are you stuck in no man's land.
« Reply #1 on: July 17, 2015, 11:03:40 am »
Excellent post @TG  :)
Finally saw sense on 8/12/13

So many mountains, so little time...
 
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