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Mood Swings.
« on: January 25, 2016, 02:55:44 am »



Quitting smoking is stressful and this can be taken out on people closest to you friends and family.

People in recovery from addiction do have ups and downs, and sometimes more downs than ups unless they adopt new ways of coping, none of which happen overnight.  Quitting is a process. Anger may play an unexpected role for you in this process, and better coping skills need to be developed to deal with this.   

When we quit smoking we go through changes that require some unmasking. Take anger, for instance:  As nicotine addicts, we might have swallowed our anger, or walked away a had a cigarette rather than make a scene when something really annoying us. 

It might have been easier and less stressful than engaging in confrontation about some problem.

In such anger, a nicotine fix became the crutch, the comforter and the savior of sorts, and quite a coping mechanism!  (Or so we thought anyway.)

With the giving up (and loss from our lives) of that lifelong 'all-round friend' the cigarette, we literally go through mourning with all its stages, including the stage of sadness and anger.  Quitting is a major loss, both physically and psychologically, and in addiction, you will naturally mourn that loss for a little while, until you can freely accept the quit and adopt it, the light bulb moment. Letting go of smoking.   

But besides that mourning, there are also things that can naturally trigger an angry response when you are quitting. For instance, typical little things such as finding an empty roll on the toilet paper dispenser, discovering someone's dirty laundry on the floor, coming across dirty dishes in another part of the house, etc., all could NOW send you into that angry zone.  When you would have smoked  and maybe said nothing in those situations, maybe even allowed yourself a sigh of exasperation.  Now, however, it could send you in a real tailspin.  It's demoralizing if you turn into an ogre and don't know how to deal with it.

Gaining control over nicotine addiction involves recovery, which in turn involves self-discovery and self-appreciation, and it is a process of necessary change on many fronts, including how we deal with many things.   

Give yourself time. You don't have to see everything clearly , straight away, it will happen. You have to learn a whole different way of doing things, it really is a life changing process.
 
« Last Edit: June 19, 2016, 01:02:44 am by TG »
Quit Date: 04-04-2014

You don’t need cigarettes to be complete. All the happiness, comfort and peace you seek, is already inside you.
 
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